We all must be thankful to God for having granted us such a precious human life. How long it would last is not known to us but how it can become a happy experience for us and all those surrounding us very much depends upon our attitude to make it enjoyable and happy. I may submit, for your kind consideration, a simple and certain way to be happy all the time. Think about it for a moment and see if you can figure out what it would take for you to be happy?Are you happy if you Accomplish Your Dream?
- That you are in a good relationship or with the right boyfriend/girlfriend?
- That you were married with the right boy friend/girl friend whom you had the dream see as your spouse?
- That you have a million dollars with you or in your bank account?
- That you are successful in your projects?
- That you have better health?
- That you get a new job, a better one?
- That you have a great career?
- That you have a good accommodation to live?
- That your family co-operates you in your mission?
- That you enjoy an admirable social status?
What would it take for you to be truly happy? Think on it more deeply. If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you’ll never be happy! Why? Surprised? Do not be. The truth is that nothing can make you happy, and today.
Why Nothing Will Make You Happy
Being happy does not depend on a particular outcome or something happening to you. Happiness is not something you find or discover. You can not go into a store and buy a 10-pound bag of happiness. There is no place where you can go and find happiness sitting there waiting you. It is not available in any market or shopping place to be purchased with some notes of dollars, pound, rupees or any other currency. Unfortunately many of us have been brought up to believe that something external can make you happy or that you can find happiness somewhere.
Advertising of all sorts suggests that a new car, skin cream, a new outfit, new shoes a drink, or a new diet can make you happy but that is simply not true. Nothing can make you happy because happiness is really a feeling. Happiness is something you experience. These material things may make you happier for some moments. If you want truly to be happy, you may have to go deeper how you can be happy in real sense of happiness.
If you want to be happy, then, be happy.
But most people do not choose to be happy because they spend most of their time focusing on what is wrong with their life. You may do something you do not enjoy doing and never allow yourself to truly experience happiness.
Let us face it; you can not be happy doing something that you do not like. If you do not believe me, try it. Try doing something you despise and see if you can be happy at the same time. Trust me, you will not be happy doing something you do not enjoy! You also can not do something you really enjoy and be sad or angry. Do not believe me – try it. See what happens. Go ahead and try doing something you really enjoy and see if you are angry or miserable at the same time. That will not work either. So, if you think that getting a new job will make you happy you are wrong. Getting a new job will also not make you happy. If you think that having a boyfriend/girlfriend will make you happy – you are again wrong. If you think having a million dollars will make you happy, you are wrong, it will not. It is not the money, relationship or new job that will make you happy. Happiness is a feeling that you experience when you appreciate the positive things in your life. Unfortunately, people falsely believe they can be happy when they achieve a particular goal and make the mistake of chasing that goal in order to be happy.
It is really not achieving the goal that makes them happy. It is the feeling of achieving the goal that provides another feeling that is mistaken for happiness. For example: if you want a new job and think that by having a new job you will be happy – it is not the job that will make you happy. It more likely is the feeling of security, the ability to make your payments, or the sense of achievement that comes from getting the job, which in turn provides another feeling that is mistaken for happiness.
If its a million dollars that you think will make you happy then it is really the financial security, the freedom that comes from having a million dollars that you feel will allow you to be happy, because you feel you’ll then be able to do what you enjoy. It is really not the million dollars that makes you happy. It is what that money can do for you and the feeling that is associated with having that money that you feel will lead to happiness. But the truth is you can be happy with or without that million dollars. This mistake is quite common, because it is not security or peace of mind that makes you happy. Instead you experience happiness when you do what you enjoy and when you focus on the positive things taking place in your life. If you are not doing that then you can never be happy. Do not think that you can be happy by having something.
Discover how you can experience happiness by achieving your particular goal by doing what you enjoy, have fun while achieving your goals and choose the right goals, the kind that allow you to be happy all the time. Focus on what you want. Start doing things that you enjoy. Look at the positive things that are going on in your life. Direct your mind and subconscious mind to help you experience happiness everyday. This will start once you begin to appreciate the good things in your life.
How You Can Be Happy
Okay so how can you begin to be happy? It is really quite simple, all you have to do is shift your focus. Instead of looking at all that is wrong with your life, instead of looking at what you do not like about yourself or your life; change your focus. Start appreciating all that is good in your life. Make a list if you want and write out all of the positive things in your life. Usually, some of you may say that you can not think of anything positive or good in your life. You just want to be happy. That is only because you are not seeing all that the positive things in your life. And so you will never be happy.
Everyday there are wonderful things taking place in your life, yet you fail to observe and recognize these events or people. This can be anything from a warm meal to a wonderful spouse, family, etc. If you have a roof over your head, that is a positive aspect of your life. If you had a warm meal, that is a positive event. If you had a pleasant conversation with someone, that is a positive aspect.
Start looking at all of the great and terrific things that are going on in your life and you shall begin to experience happiness on a deeper level. You can begin to improve or change the areas that you are not happy with but at the same time you should acknowledge the good things that are going on in your life.
Your mind is used to only paying attention to what is going wrong and in the process it directs the subconscious mind to continue creating more of those things that are going wrong. You actually create more of what makes you unhappy.
Why?
Because your subconscious creates what you regularly think about. So, if you do not regularly focus on the positive things you will not create positive situations in your life. And here is where it gets worse. When you constantly focus on what is wrong with your life, when you only think about and see what is wrong in your life your subconscious begins to create more of what is wrong or more of what you do not want because it thinks that you want more. Now you know why it can be so difficult for some people to truly experience happiness, it is because they’re used to focusing on the negative aspects of life and in the end continue to create more of what they do not want. In order to change all of this you have to begin training the mind and re-directing the subconscious mind to begin creating what you want in life and to focus on the good things that are taking place in your life.
Begin experiencing happiness by changing your focus. Everyday think of the positive things that are going on in your life. Make a list of all the wonderful things that are taking place in your life. Think of at least 3 great things that happened to you they can be small or large – but just appreciate 3 good things that happened during the day. Focus on the positive. Direct your mind and subconscious mind by changing your perspective so you experience happiness everyday.
Have Some Fun
Now that you know that your happiness does not depend on some other event taking place you can now follow another simple step to experience happiness and that is to simply have fun. Too often I hear from people who simply want to be happy but when I ask them what they do for fun they say: “Nothing.” No wonder you are not happy. How can you be happy if you’re never having fun in life? If you want to experience happiness then you have to start doing things that you can enjoy. I love to play soccer and race my car. I also have a lot of fun when I’m playing with my children, nephews or nieces. I also have a lot of fun when I act like a 6 year old with my wife who responds by acting like she is 4. This is how I enjoy life and it allows me to experience a great deal of happiness. I try not to grow up too quickly – what is the point of being an adult all of the time? To me it is simply not fun and I choose to enjoy my life. You should try it. If you want to experience happiness then start doing things that you enjoy. You may like gardening; you may like hang gliding, you may like riding your bike, you may enjoy going for long walks, you may enjoy acting like a 5-year old – whatever it is start doing it and see how great you feel. But there is one catch when you’re doing what you enjoy, you can only focus on that and not think about anything else that may be bothering you. That is the only way you’ll truly enjoy the activity and begin to experience happiness. As adults we get bogged down with the everyday tasks that force us to be serious. We have jobs where we are serious, bills to pay, food to prepare, kids to look after, it is all too serious and it is necessary. I am not suggesting you ignore your responsibilities – but take some time just to have some fun.
Now you can not just have fun once a week or once a month. You have to do this everyday. That means everyday you have to find something fun to do then only will you get comfortable and used to the process to the point where you regularly experience happiness. Once you start doing this you’ll enjoy it so much you shall wonder why you never did this to begin with.
I know somebody out there is going to say: “I shall enjoy life when I get a new job.” Or something like that. I shall probably also hear from someone who says: “I do not have time to have fun or enjoy my life. That is why I am not happy.” My answer to that is that if you see things in such a way then being happy simply, is not important enough to you. If you really believe that you can only be happy when you get a job or when something else happens you are denying yourself the opportunity to be happy right now. If you do not feel you have the time to have fun and enjoy your life then you are really saying that your happiness is not important enough. Only when you decide to be happy will you truly begin to experience happiness. You can work with the submissions I have made above – they will help you get started. But you will need to train your mind and subconscious mind to begin seeing and living in a different way.
Be Happy – Analyze Your Happiness and Accomplish Your Dreams.