Whenever we are put to decide on some issue, we need to decide one side – either yes or no. The most difficult thing, the almost impossible thing for the mind, is to remain in the middle, to remain balanced. And to move from one thing to its opposite is the easiest. To move from one polarity to another is the nature of the mind.
If we are balanced, mind disappears. It works when we do not decide an issue in the beginning. Mind is like a disease: when you are imbalanced it is there, when you are balanced, it is not there. That is why it is easy for a person who overeats, to go on a fast. It looks illogical, because we think that a person who is obsessed with food cannot go on a fast. But we are wrong. Only a person who is obsessed with food can fast, because fasting is the same obsession in the opposite direction. We are not really changing ourselves. You are still obsessed with food. Before you were overeating; now you are hungry – but the mind remains focused on food from the opposite extreme.
It is difficult for the mind to come to the right diet, difficult for the mind to stay in the middle. It is just like a clock’s pendulum. The pendulum goes to the right, then it moves to the left, then again to the right and again to the left; the clock’s working depends on this movement.If the pendulum stays in the middle, the clock stops. And when the pendulum moves to the right, you think it is only going to the right, but at the same time it is gathering momentum to go the left, the more energy it gathers to move to the left, and vice versa.
Thinking means momentum. The mind starts arranging for the opposite. When you love a person you are gathering momentum to hate him. That’s why only friends can become enemies. You cannot suddenly become an enemy unless you have first become a friend. Only lovers can quarrel and fight, because unless you love, how can you hate? Unless you have moved far to the extreme left, how can you move to the right?
Modern research says that so-called love is a relationship of intimate love is a relationship of intimate enmity. Your wife is your intimate enmity, your husband is you intimate enemy – both intimate and inimical, illogical, because we wonder how one who is intimate can be the enemy; one who is a friend, how can he also be the foe? You can feel the day light only when you have passed through the darkness of night. You must try to give up the confusion first and decide the issue either side otherwise that issue will remain pending drawing your attention again and again.
Be Happy – Give Up Your Confusion.