How to be an Emotionally Available Partner

How to be an Emotionally Available Partner : Feelings are often overwhelming for people, but it’s a more difficult task for people who are emotionally unavailable to know what they are feeling. It’s challenging for these people to acknowledge what’s playing out in their heart and mind. As a result, they stay away from vulnerable moments that would have otherwise created a real connection with their partner.

Most couples face the issue of being emotionally unavailable to their partner at one time or another if life becomes difficult away from from their relationship: business problems, sick members of family, etc. However, if emotional unavailability is rooted in a persons early years, learned from their primary caregivers or life experiences, then emotional unavailability can constantly play out in a relationship. Breakups, unfaithful partners, and bad relationships are often the result of the emotional unavailability of one of both partners.

Some studies say that the number of singles is increasing in the world. The rise in this is most evident among the age group of 18 to 29 years of age since 2004. However, it is also evident that singles aged 30 to 39 have also grown from 15% to 19% in the same period.

Of course, multiple factors influence the singles trend, but emotional unavailability plays a key role in it. Moreover, nowadays, there are plenty of social media and dating apps that open the windows to pick new relationships and forget to work on the one relationship they are actually in.

Relationships need maintenance, care and commitment like all other worthwhile things that can be obtained in life, and emotional availability plays a key role in a relationship succeeding. So let us explore the best ways to be an emotionally available partner and keep our relationship growing day by day and with time.

Examine Yourself

It is important to self reflect on yourself instead of looking for faults in your partner. Think again about how you see yourself in the relationship and where you can improve. Your degree of self respect and beliefs about yourself matter a lot and to a high degree determine the success of your relationship with your partner. For example, you may feel that you don’t trust your partner or you don’t deserve him/her and this can manifest in your relationship with communication and actions. If you feel you are not worthy of a loving relationship with your partner, you can rethink why you think this is so. Your beliefs about yourself can help you find the underlying cause of a bad relationship. You can change your beliefs with the support of a professional.

Your Partner’s Requirements and Feelings

Once you have self reflected on your beliefs and the way you feel, then think about the needs and feelings of your partner. Your partner will have beliefs and feelings and quite possibly some fear regarding his/her relationship with you. These fears, beliefs, and feelings are important to learn about and acknowledge, and you should never ignore them, you should discuss them as a couple.

Spend Quality Time with your Partner

Life is busy today, and most couples don’t have or prioritize making enough quality time for their partner. But one of the keys to a successful relationship is spending quality time with each other. Making time for your partner will allow you to be present and emotionally available to him/her. In addition, spending more quality time enables you to talk more intimately to your partner about what they feel negatively and positively about the relationship.

Help your Partner to Open Up.

It is your responsibility to open up yourself and help your partner to do the same. Unless both of you open up, it will be difficult to find any underlying causes of emotional unavailability. Make your partner feel safe and comfortable by talking with an open, warm heart. Show that you care for him/her so that your partner tells you what he/she feels. In an ideal relationship you can discuss all matters openly.

Conclusion

The key to a successful relationship is to be emotionally available to each other and able to discuss any issue openly, no matter how big or small. Sometimes couples or one partner can have some work to do to resolve the past or need greater loving relationship skills to succeed. If you need professional support or guidance to succeed with love consult a highly skilled marriage counselor, therapist or coach. At Couples Therapy Miami, Tony has decades of experience helping couples to succeed with love. He can help you to develop greater communication skills, and teach you tools to accomplish success in your loving relationship. Following these tips too can help you to become more of an emotionally available partner and build a more loving relationship with your partner.