If You Have a Crush on Your Cousin

If You Have a Crush on Your Cousin
If You Have a Crush on Your Cousin

Do not get scared if you realize that you like your cousin. It is quite normal, because as a rule this happens to be the first person you start to have some feelings. So do not run scared and trust me there is nothing wrong with you. Here are some things to explain this feeling and tips how to deal with it.

1. Accept that it is normal

It is very important to realize that these feelings mean nothing and they have nothing to do with true love. Many people get scared of having such a crush, they know all the stereotypes and are afraid of censure. Cousins only seem to be boy or girlfriend of your dreams but in reality this infatuation will pass as you grow older, meet other nice people and get through the hormone changes.

2. Age

The age is usually one of the explanations. Do you remember how old you were when you had a crush on your cousin? I bet you were a kid. When we only begin to develop feelings towards the opposite sex (or when kids the same sex also) our choice falls on those who are close to us. It will go by with the course of time and you need not to take any decisions concerning that.

3. Remember you are not alone

You should know that you are not alone and this happens to many people though you may not know any cases. People usually conceal it. But be sure that this happens here and there and you are not alone. The situation can always be corrected.

4. Don`t take actions

You might have already realized that you should not do anything to go further in this sympathy. As it is your family you will most probably face misunderstanding from their side and it will cause great confusion. So youd better dont show your feeling to anybody including your cousin and find a way to resist it.

5. Find another person to have a crush on

It may be not that easy to do this when you have feelings towards another person but you should make yourself do it. Look closer to the people around you and choose somebody to know him\her better. It will help you get distracted from your cousin and who knows maybe you will like this person even more than your relative.

6. Don`t be too hard on yourself

When you happen to like your cousin you should not torment yourself with remorse. This does not mean that you are not okay, it happens to many people. Take the time and everything will get back right.

7. Focus on yourself

The best way to forget about the troubles is to concentrate on yourself. Take care of yourself, meet friends and find new ones, find a new hobby or do what you have been longing to do for a long time. This will distract you from negative thought and will help you move on.

8. Take time to get over it

If you need some time to recover from the crush, take it. Afterwards, it will be easier for you to move on and open up for new feelings to somebody else. There is no time limit so you can take as much time as you need. It must only be effective.

9. Grieve if necessary

When you think you are in love with your cousin it will be a loss which should be grieved about. It hurts to know that your feelings may never be returned and you cant act on it. So moan over the loss and move on. You really deserve a person who will treat you the way you do and wont be a relative of yours.

I hope I have managed to persuade you that having a crush on your cousin is not something terrible. Try to be honest and tell have you ever had a crush on your cousin?


If You Have a Crush on Your Cousin