Getting that Cute Guy to Approach You at the Gym

Does it feel like your love life is headed nowhere?

All of the eligible bachelors taken?
No one cute enough at work?
Swiping right (or left) isn’t doing it for you.
You cringe at the word “pick-up” and “hook-up”.
Would NEVER approach guys at bars and chat them up.

Don’t lose heart – there’s still the gym

You’d be surprised at how many people have met the love of their lives at gyms. You could too. The best part is that you don’t need to even approach him. The guys are working on it. There are tons of videos and blogs that coach men on how to overcome social anxiety and confidently approach women at the gym. The guys are willing to put themselves out there at the cost of facing rejection. Don’t believe me? Here are some interesting insights into a man’s perspective on approaching a girl.

The least women could do is make it easier on the guys.

Here’s what you can do:

The friendly head nod

Get into the habit of acknowledging the others at the gym with a friendly yet innocuous head nod. Smile not just at cute guys but the others too (women included). Who knows? You might make new friends, and most importantly, will come across as approachable. No male fancies approaching a woman with the “resting bitch face (RBF).” It’s a real thing!

Eye-contact

Don’t be afraid to make eye contact with a guy you find cute. Fortunately, men do not judge women who initiate eye contact as being creepy or weird. So yes, things are stacked in our favor. Once you’ve done that, he will come up to you if interested.

Take off the headphones

No doubt, headphones, and music make for an invigorating workout. Unfortunately, they also send out signals that you don’t want to be disturbed. Solution: take them off when your crush walks in. After you’ve smiled and said a casual Hello, give him the chance to talk to you.

Move into his vicinity

Gyms can be expansive spaces. Try to position yourself in the vicinity of his next rep (preferably before he gets there – you don’t want to be seen following him around). Doing this makes it easier for him to engage in some friendly side-by-side banter.

Breakaway from your girl gang

Men can find it intimidating to break into a circle of ladies working out together. Separate from your group at least for a while because a guy who wants to know you better will wait for a chance to have you alone to himself. Give it to him.

Befriend his friends

Is your crush always surrounded by his gym buddies? Try befriending them first. It’s less intimidating. Chances are he’ll join the conversation and address you directly. No need for awkward approaches and pick-up lines here.

Ask for tips/advice

If you’re serious about fitness, he’s going to notice it and will take your questions or suggestions seriously. Like women, men too are perceptive, and can easily weed out women who use tips/advice as an approach tactic. Stay focused on your fitness goals – it will show, and you will attract men of quality. The research behind female attraction throws quite a few insights into male-female interactions and expectations.

Take it outside the gym

So you’re now on casual chatting terms but would like to take it further without coming on too strong. Why not suggest breakfast someplace that serves protein shakes or anything health-related? If he’s a foodie, check out places together while keeping things light and casual until you’ve gotten to know him better.

Add him on social media

This is effective in weeding out lotharios and pick-up artists from the nice guys. A man who doesn’t mind letting you into his world will be happy to add you. Tip: watch out for the types who post nothing about their lives, families, and friends but will happily add others to gain access into their worlds.

Dealing with unsolicited advice from the rest

“Hey you’re doing it all wrong – here let me show you!” This is the oldest trick in the gym flirting manuals to approach women. Chances are guys will use that as a strategy to break the ice. If this “advice” gets bothersome, don’t hesitate to call them out on it. Laugh it off and say something like “Thanks for your concern buddy, I’m good though.”

There is nothing but benefits when you work out at the gym: a fantastic body, new-found confidence levels, brand new friends, and who knows, the man of your dreams too.