Everyone wants to be successful and happy these days, but there are so many things that prevent us from being happy. The truth is, we are the only ones that can decide whether to live a happy life or spend the life doing things that make us unhappy. You will never become successful if you don’t learn how to be happy. It’s hard to learn to ignore negativity, stereotypes, and naysayers, but it’s extremely important. Don’t be afraid to go against the grain to make a difference by doing things your own way. Here are a few things you should ignore if you want to be a happy and successful person.
1. The past
You can’t change your past, so there’s no sense in dwelling on it. Forget all your old troubles and mistakes. What’s done is done and you can’t change it, no matter how hard you try. In fact, our mistakes help us become stronger and wiser. We learn from them and we learn our weaknesses. Even the most stressful and tragic situations eventually teach you vital lessons that you never thought you’re going to learn. Just because you are not a successful person today doesn’t mean you will not be the one someday. You will be happy and successful – maybe not right now, but eventually. Just don’t give up and don’t let your past ruin your present.
2. The things they can’t control
Happy and successful people never force anything. They don’t hold themselves down with things they can’t control. Successful people never talk about the problem, they think about the solution. So if you have some problems, start thinking about the solutions. If you can’t change your current situation, let it be. Remember, changes happen for a reason. If it’s meant to be, it will be.
3. Other people’s opinions
It’s great to listen to people around you, but it doesn’t mean you should act up to their opinions. If you spend too much time thinking of everyone else’s perception of you and if you pay attention to everyone else’s judgment, you will eventually forget who you truly are. You know who you are, so don’t let the judgments of other people affect your life. Impress and inspire people around you and show them how happy and successful you are.
4. Impatient thoughts
Joyce Meyer once said, “Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” Patience allows you to stay focused, confidently taking one small step at a time. Every step you take, no matter how small, is a huge progress. Whether you’re working on getting a promotion, improving your health, or learning a new language, don’t expect instant results. Every change, big and small, takes patience and time. Ignore those impatient thoughts, focus on your goals, stay positive and you will definitely see your progress. Trust me, I know how it’s frustrating when the results don’t appear as fast as you’d hoped. But if you put in the work and have a little patience, you will achieve any goal, I promise!
Successful people always believe in their capacity to succeed. They ignore all nagging doubts and keep a positive attitude no matter how bad things get. Even if you made many mistakes, you should still believe in yourself and your strength. Believe that your career is worth the efforts. Believe that people can be intelligent and foolish, generous and selfish, happy and stressed all at once. Believe that you are successful even if you don’t earn millions. Believe in your intuition when you should choose between something. Believe that your life is happy and it will bring you joy again and again. Believe in magic when it seems like there’s no way out of the situation you are in. Remember, belief is always better than doubt.
6. Inessential tasks
Successful people know when and how to say no. You are not superhuman – you can’t do everything and you can’t help everyone. You need to focus on your goals. Stop trying to do too much things at once. If you never say no, you will stress yourself out since you might fail to do everything at once. Don’t be afraid to say no more often. Sometimes we spend a lot of time on what is urgent and less time on what is important. Try to focus on more important things and it will certainly help you achieve success.
7. Everyday frustrations
Bad days are just bad days. They come and they go. Although you might feel overly stressed, try to ignore them. It’s much easier to enjoy your life when you stay positive even if you have a bad day. Unfortunately, we can’t avoid everyday frustrations. We fall, we rise, we make mistakes, we learn, and we live. We are all humans, we can’t be perfect. Practice gratitude daily and it will help you cope with hard times. Realize that life is beautiful. Sometimes there’s sadness, but there are also plenty of beautiful things. Learn to ignore everyday frustrations even when it hurts, and you will see how happy and successful you are.
Often we don’t take risks because of fear of failing, judgment, or rejection. This is one of the main reasons why so many people are not successful these days. Successful people overcome their fears and they often take risks. In fact, almost everything in life is a risk, including just being alive. If you don’t take risks, you won’t grow and thrive and you won’t know what you are capable of. When you feel fear, doubt, frustration, or anxiety, know that you can fight it. Just focus on the possibilities, on the goodness and on your goals and you will feel much better in no time.
I know it’s much easier for me to tell you to ignore all these things. But success can’t be achieved without efforts. Which of the things above have you struggled with?